Release date: October 15, 2025

In episode 80, Chris and Emma talked with Heather Anne Keyes, a neuroqueer Gestalt psychotherapist and educator based in Durango, Mexico. Together, we explore the intersections between sexuality, neurodivergence, and development through the lens of Dąbrowski’s theory of positive disintegration.

This conversation invites listeners to think about how we relate to ourselves and others when we step outside of convention. Heather’s insights bridge psychotherapy and lived experience, showing how awareness, compassion, and honesty can transform the way we love, communicate, and grow.

Topics include:

• Rethinking monogamy, non-monogamy, and ethical relationships

• The overlap between giftedness, neurodivergence, and relational complexity

• Gestalt therapy as a practice of awareness, authenticity, and co-creation

• I-Thou relationships and the ethics of seeing others as full humans

• The role of language in communication and self-understanding

• How Buddhist psychology and radical acceptance inform Heather’s work

Heather also shares moving reflections on loss, love, and the lifelong process of learning to “accept pain without turning it into unnecessary suffering.”

Resources from this episode

Heather’s website

Humans of Gestalt (website)

Humans of Gestalt (YouTube)

Bio: Heather Anne Keyes is a neuroqueer Gestalt psychotherapist and educator who works online from Durango, Mexico in her private practice and she´s guest faculty at several psychotherapy training institutes internationally. Her areas of interest include neurodivergence (particularly giftedness and PG folks), therapeutic humour, non-monogamous relationships and diverse sexualities, and decolonizing the theory and practice of therapy. She founded and coordinates the “Humans of Gestalt” project, creates projects and spaces for human connection as a hobby and is living life with a fabulous daughter and son at home.